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Offline rosscrazyelk

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I failed as a uncle/mentor
« on: October 17, 2017, 10:10:52 AM »
Took my niece deer hunting this weekend and during the hunt I realized I have dropped the ball the past few years.  Boots were to small, did not have enough of the proper clothing and she has somewhat gotten unfamiliar with her gun.
When I was single I had no problem keeping my niece outfitted properly and finding good places to hunt and making sure she practices. Now I have a family of my own and time just disappears somehow. I can barely get done what I need for myself.
Even though she is 18 and graduated I am the only outdoor Influence on her life.
Anyway something's happened that just made me feel horrible .
I guess it's these things that wake you up .
If its brown knock it down

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Re: I failed as a uncle/mentor
« Reply #1 on: October 17, 2017, 10:13:37 AM »
Don't lose sleep over it. Make it better for next year. It's clear from the photos that she loves being out there with you even if her boots are a little small  and you've done great so far getting her out there.
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Re: I failed as a uncle/mentor
« Reply #2 on: October 17, 2017, 10:19:25 AM »
 :yeah: !  You are a good mentor Ross, there is a lot to learn when your young about hunting, mistakes will be made.  Keep at it, your helping make her be a real hunter!
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Re: I failed as a uncle/mentor
« Reply #3 on: October 17, 2017, 10:22:19 AM »
It takes an awful lot to mentor a young hunter. She probably appreciates it more than you realize. At least you have a list of a few things to make better next year, or for late season if that's an option. Good luck to you, and don't let it get you down!

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Re: I failed as a uncle/mentor
« Reply #4 on: October 17, 2017, 11:00:11 AM »
I wouldn't call that a failure in any stretch. A minor bump in the road. Good on you for taking her out and being a good influence, that goes much further than gear.

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Re: I failed as a uncle/mentor
« Reply #5 on: October 17, 2017, 11:04:04 AM »
Unless I missed something you sound like you're doing a good job.
My nephews dad left when he was younger and I get him out when I can it goes by fast
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Re: I failed as a uncle/mentor
« Reply #6 on: October 17, 2017, 11:12:39 AM »
My Dad had to outfit me and my two brothers along with himself for deer, elk, pheasant and duck hunting. We may have had clothes/boots that didn't fit and leaked water and binos that you might be better off using your bare eyes but he managed to get us all out in the field. My memories are the good times with my dad and brothers in the field and not the quality of equipment provided. You are doing a great job getting her out there, I know I've learned to appreciate what my dad sacrificed to introduce his boys to hunting and I'm sure she will appreciate her great uncle's efforts too. Great Job!

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Re: I failed as a uncle/mentor
« Reply #7 on: October 17, 2017, 11:22:50 AM »
I had a great experience with my daughter this weekend and I still have a list of things I messed up on and need to improve.

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Re: I failed as a uncle/mentor
« Reply #8 on: October 17, 2017, 11:34:08 AM »
The fact that at 18 she still accepts your invitation to go out hunting tells me that you have succeded where it counts.
Chin up.
You're doing something right.  :tup:
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Re: I failed as a uncle/mentor
« Reply #9 on: October 17, 2017, 11:36:40 AM »
The fact that at 18 she still accepts your invitation to go out hunting tells me that you have succeded where it counts.
Chin up.
You're doing something right.  :tup:

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Re: I failed as a uncle/mentor
« Reply #10 on: October 17, 2017, 12:57:32 PM »
If you took her hunting period you are a huge success in my eyes. Many uncles will give stuff or money but experience is the greatest gift. I think you're awsome.

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Re: I failed as a uncle/mentor
« Reply #11 on: October 17, 2017, 01:07:13 PM »
we should start a swap meet specific for youth, very low or free prices to cover shipping.  Let's get our youth outfitted.

I got a tubs full of youth stuff I've hoarded over the years but I have a bunch of nieces/nephews that will grow into it eventually.  Lot of other hunters on here might have a bunch of stuff and no one to pass it down too?


and ross you haven't failed buddy, kids grow fast.  I had to go on an emergency shopping spree for my daughter because girls change shape *a lot*  :chuckle:  at 14 or 15 or so.


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Re: I failed as a uncle/mentor
« Reply #12 on: October 17, 2017, 01:33:35 PM »
Sounds to me like you're a great mentor.  :dunno:  :tup:
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Re: I failed as a uncle/mentor
« Reply #13 on: October 17, 2017, 01:48:33 PM »
We are, our own worst critic. As mentioned above; you got her out and that's all that counts. Don't beat yourself up.
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Re: I failed as a uncle/mentor
« Reply #14 on: October 17, 2017, 02:11:15 PM »
we should start a swap meet specific for youth, very low or free prices to cover shipping.  Let's get our youth outfitted.

Awesome idea, KF! I would be happy to make some donations or help support shipping.

 


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