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Title: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: addicted2hunting on September 06, 2015, 11:04:25 AM
yesterday put a stalk on a solid 180" buck, had him at 38 yds downhill (range finder with angle comp) drew the bow nestled my 40 pin behind the shoulder and shot over by about 3 inches. saw 7 nice bucks in this bachelor herd. After a night of freezing temps and a ripped sleeping bag I was deflated! I am super accurate and comfy at shooting out to 50 yds and missed a chip shot... biggest buck I have ever seen in the mountains. after all my mishaps I decided to hike out of the backcountry and come home. How do you get over missing a buck like that with such an easy shot???
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: Taco280AI on September 06, 2015, 11:12:21 AM
Just learn from it and apply what you learned next time. If he is 38 and downhill, depending on how far downhill, you should have used your 30 yard pin on him. Or did your RF say 38 with the angle factored in? Either way, go practice on some hills and get him next time.
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: addicted2hunting on September 06, 2015, 11:14:31 AM
yeah angle comp on range finder said 38, but yeah 30 pin would have pinwheeled him.
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: notellumcreek on September 06, 2015, 11:15:05 AM
 :party1:  :chuckle:

  That is tough one to swallow. I would try and get back out there, and learn from the mistake. Still can't be too upset that you put yourself in a position to even have a chance at a buck that big, let alone see one that big. I honestly doubt I will ever see one that big in my lifetime- well maybe in my dreams!
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: cbond3318 on September 06, 2015, 11:19:37 AM
You don't, trust me.
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: DIYARCHERYJUNKIE on September 06, 2015, 11:20:54 AM
Be proud of the accomplishment you did have.  Getting a pig in close range.  Learn from the miss practice at steep downhill / uphill .  When you pinwheel a good one it will make it that much more sweet.  It's the guys who quit and let that miss defeat them that never get the glory.  Even during the hunt you have to learn to shake off the mistakes.  They can ruin the hunt if you dwell on them.  Those animals live there. You are just a visitor.  Capitalize on every mistake they make and antlers will hit the ground. 
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: Netminder01 on September 06, 2015, 11:23:53 AM
You don't, trust me.

 :yeah:
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: Johnb317 on September 06, 2015, 11:27:26 AM
You had opportunities and gave up out of frustration?! Perseverance and learning from mistakes. 
 screwing up is (sadly) how I learn best.   :bash:

Btw - one miss I had 35 yd down hill on an Elk - I didn't bend at the waist   
       - friend of mine missed a no brainer, then realized his sight had loosened in transit.   (I try to always carry a target block in the back of my rig)
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: addicted2hunting on September 06, 2015, 11:31:33 AM
good points guys... ya I went home mostly cause of my sleeping bag failure and the 30 degree weather up there. it was a long nasty night that night. but ya next week will not be the same outcome hopefully...
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: fishngamereaper on September 06, 2015, 11:40:30 AM
Sux for sure but the way I see it is a clean miss is better than a bad hit and loosing the animal. Its still alive, which means you have a chance. Redemption is the sweetest part of failure.  Learn from it, move on and enjoy the ride. Bucks don't get 180 being stupid, you must of done something right.
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: stew pidasso on September 06, 2015, 11:43:01 AM
He will be back in the same area, give him a day or two and go find him. Id say its pretty awesome you were so close and got a shot of in the first place. Next time he won't be so lucky.
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: Eli346 on September 06, 2015, 12:56:14 PM
Don't give up. There's a ton of us hunters who would have loved to had the same experience; even if we missed. That's why they call it hunting and not shooting.
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: DIYARCHERYJUNKIE on September 06, 2015, 01:55:54 PM
If you had killed that buck I bet you loved that sleeping bag that night. 
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: bucksbearsbeers on September 06, 2015, 01:59:50 PM
You don't, trust me.

 :yeah:
:yeah:
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: M_ray on September 06, 2015, 02:15:48 PM
The best way to get over him is to go get your hands on him!  ;) You know where he is at now go back and get him!  :tup:
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: jackmaster on September 06, 2015, 02:25:34 PM
Or you could thank your lucky stars that you have the good health to afford misses like that, it might have been your first but it wont be your last.. get back in the saddle and go after him... you could be freezing your a s s off in the mountains of of some third world country while some turbin flyer takes pot shots at ya!!! As long as you learned something it should have been worth it.. JACK O'CONNOR passed on the biggest buck he ever seen, when asked why, he simply stated " had I killed that buck, not only would my season would be over, but I could never find anything bigger so what would be the point" he also said it was better that that buck live and pass on his genes and die of old age!!! I guess it all comes down to how you view things :dunno:
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: Bullkllr on September 06, 2015, 03:12:43 PM
Or you could thank your lucky stars that you have the good health to afford misses like that, it might have been your first but it wont be your last.. get back in the saddle and go after him... you could be freezing your a s s off in the mountains of of some third world country while some turbin flyer takes pot shots at ya!!! As long as you learned something it should have been worth it.. JACK O'CONNOR passed on the biggest buck he ever seen, when asked why, he simply stated " had I killed that buck, not only would my season would be over, but I could never find anything bigger so what would be the point" he also said it was better that that buck live and pass on his genes and die of old age!!! I guess it all comes down to how you view things :dunno:

I like that. I'm going to use that for my excuse to only kill does spikes and small forkies.
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: elk247 on September 06, 2015, 04:03:36 PM
That's bowhunting. The only way to get over it is to hang your tag on him, either this year or in the future. You know where he lives so get back out there and hunt him down. It's so much more special to finally harvest an animal you have a history with, be it past hunts or trail cam pics from past years. You got this buddy! Good luck. I'm right down the road from you if you need a hand or another set of eyes.
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: h20hunter on September 06, 2015, 04:09:18 PM
I'd say be happy you missed clean. What if you hit badly and didn't recover. A clean miss means it ain't over yet.
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: HUNTINCOUPLE on September 06, 2015, 04:09:37 PM
I'd drown a few sorrows and get right back at it!!!!!!! :IBCOOL:
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: huntnnw on September 06, 2015, 04:34:55 PM
This thread brought back a lot of memories of a giant I shot and never recovered . May of been the biggest buck I woulda killed. The buck I'm almost positive lived arrow was low and thru the brisket . Nothing I coulda learned from my experience everything was correct other than the shot and still don't know why it was low. I've never forgotten and sometimes it makes me sick thinking about it to this day and it's been 10 years this season. It's what makes hunting.. Hunting! It's the drive every year to find that next buck or bull of a lifetime that keeps us hunting. There will be other opportunities to come if you keep hunting hard .
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: Bill W on September 06, 2015, 04:36:46 PM
just a miss.  shrug it off and step up to the batting box again.  Odds are in your favor now on the next shot.

Everybody misses sometimes.  Now you got a good story to go with it.   Rifle shooting I used to miss about once every 10 years.  The misses made better stories than the hits.  Shoot, one deer I called as two missed shots at him, walked around the corner for my next attempt and saw him laying on the ground.
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: Seabass on September 06, 2015, 04:46:05 PM
Better to have missed clean! Doesn't help you now but someday you may hit a giant and lose him. The feeling is much worse. Last season  I made a bad "chip shot" (17 yards) on the biggest buck I have ever seen in person or drawn on. It sucks but it's part of the deal and you don't really get over it....ever.
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: Old Man Yager on September 06, 2015, 05:06:09 PM
Still kick myself in the arse for deer I missed years ago! And missed 1 two years ago that should be in my wall. You can laugh at yourself when you miss a small one, they are much easier to get over!!
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: idahohuntr on September 06, 2015, 05:16:47 PM
I shot and lost a buck.  First and only deer I've lost in my life.  I was so sick about the whole thing and still am.  I went out the very next day and killed my best archery buck ever.  Losing one still stings, but getting back out and focusing on hunting was much better than stewing and losing confidence. 

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Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: Wingin it on September 06, 2015, 05:45:04 PM
Unfortunately, that one is going to haunt you for awhile. Probably for the rest of your life. I have one about like that from over 10 years ago and still think about it. Prepare, practice, and do your best to be ready next time.
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: BUTTER on September 06, 2015, 05:56:14 PM
Hunting is my life and missing is my business jk but seriously if you hunt enough it will and does happen to the best of them part of the game sorry about your luck but maybe not all but most hunters will and have missed
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: Boss .300 winmag on September 06, 2015, 06:15:27 PM
 Four years ago I watched the largest Muley I have ever seen ( easily 180" plus) walk away because I didn't have a clean shoot at it and he was moving fast because some other hunters pushed out from his bed. It haunts me every season, but I made the right choice not to shoot, and wound him for my own selfish personal gain. Last Thursday I scouted out the exact same spot I go every opening morning where I let him walk and see a great 4x4, hopefully he is there come Oct 17th.

You will never forget, just learn how to find other ways to cope it hit.  :twocents:
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: Bean Counter on September 06, 2015, 06:23:18 PM
I'd say be happy you missed clean. What if you hit badly and didn't recover. A clean miss means it ain't over yet.

 :yeah:
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: RadSav on September 06, 2015, 06:50:33 PM
Unfortunately, that one is going to haunt you for awhile. Probably for the rest of your life. I have one about like that from over 10 years ago and still think about it. Prepare, practice, and do your best to be ready next time.

I have one of those haunting misses from darn near every state.  Just crossing the state line brings back the horror and disappointment of years past.   :chuckle:


You know you have experienced it more than once when your wife starts laughing as soon as she sees the post headline.  Then asks, "Did you start a new thread?"  She's evil...Evil I tell you.  Pure down right terribly evil!


Make sure you have the range comp activated on your range finder.

Also, if the compensator was on and working properly there should be no reason to adjust for down hill shots other than bending at the waist.  Had you used the 30 pin you would likely still be posting this thread.  Only difference would be that you missed low.

Only way I know of to over come the pain and frustrations of a miss it to keep hunting!  The next shot is likely to be a winner.  So many of my clients and experiences with hunting partners and wife end with them wanting to run home after a miss.  I tell them the one sure way to never recover from a missed opportunity is to never get another one. 

And who knows...that next one might be bigger!  I'm living proof of that.  My biggest bull ever was taken on the next to last day of the season.  Two miserable days before I missed what would have been my biggest to date when I hit a branch I didn't see.  Fast forward three days later and I almost never remember that first bull.  And he certainly never haunts my dreams.  I now feel fortunate that I missed, because 25 years later the bull I did tag that year is still my best.
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: coachcw on September 06, 2015, 08:31:33 PM
I passed a shot on a 400 class bull once . I thought he was 80 yards next day I ranged it at sixty.  Just keep at it remember to pivot at the waist. I found to take a bit more off than the range finder says . I skipped a arrow over a record class ram because I didn't take enough off . That's why it's hunting not killing.
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: addicted2hunting on September 06, 2015, 08:43:29 PM
Thanks for the inspiration guys! yeah im gonna give it another go next weekend...

Radsav. I think your right... I don't think I was bending at my waist, my range comp was activated but who knows??? I am gonna hit the walk through this week and practice the downhills...Gosh I do feel blessed to have been soo close to such an animal! Steeliedrew was with me and he had one of the monsters of that bachelor herd at 70yds but he did the right thing and passed on the shot as he wasn't comfortable with the shot. just amazing to actually see a group of bucks that size!!!! incredible experience is how I gotta look at it I guess.
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: finnman on September 06, 2015, 08:47:00 PM
I hope you like nightmares, I am still having them and it has been 4 years next month. Shotgun hunt in eastern Oregon for mule deer, fourth day of a five day hunt, my wife and I watched a 32-34" wide buck bed in a Russian Olive groove, she dove in a jumped it to me, I missed it three times at 25-100 yards with my slug gun, the largest buck I have ever seen in the wild. It sucks!
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: tgomez on September 06, 2015, 09:58:31 PM
You just pick up and move along. I've missed a few nice mule deer in my days with stick and string. It won't be your first or last miss my friend. That's why we call it hunting and not killing, because nothing is for sure. Keep in mind that targets don't duck the string either. Don't beat yourself up over it, plenty more nice big deer for you to get. Keep your head up, as well as your desire. Should just help add fuel to your fire.
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: jstone on September 06, 2015, 10:47:25 PM
I wish I knew. I have missed bucks but not that big.
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: Turner89 on September 06, 2015, 11:11:03 PM
It's a horrible feeling :bash: but this might make you feel a little better. I hunted all september for a stud blacktail that I had only one picture of. On the last day, and last hour of the day after belly crawling for hours I got wthin 20 yards. I shot, missed buck trotted of never to be seen again :bash:. Until halloween evening when my own brother shot MY buck. It scored 135". Its hanging on his wall now, instead of mine. I have felt your pain.   
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: RadSav on September 06, 2015, 11:13:14 PM
I hope you like nightmares, I am still having them and it has been 4 years next month...It sucks!


I have been having a reoccurring nightmare since 1987.  Was hunting the edge of the SanCarlos for Muledeer.  I had tore my rotator cuff a month prior and decided to shoot 45# of draw weight with 29" 2016 arrows fletched with three five inch ProFletch and tipped with a Savora 117 grain broadhead.  Spent most of my morning shadowing an honest to goodness 200 class buck as he bird dogged does.  He finally came up a draw and into my lap!  30 yards, level ground, only a few prickly pear between he and I.  When he stopped there was a single prickly pear leaf covering his heart.  Leaf was not more than 3' from his chest.  I could not hold the bow back for more than a few seconds.  So I decided to put the arrow right through the leaf and into his heart.  I hit it dead center perfect!  When the fletching got to the leaf the whole arm of the cactus swung around like a pitchers arm getting ready to throw a fastball.  Arrow never made it through :o  Broadhead couldn't have ended up more than 18" short!  If I could have shot even 55# I'm sure I would have killed that buck. :bash:

I shadowed that big boy for three days with no additional shot opportunities.  He finally grew tired of smelling me, I guess, and headed over Sombrero Peaks and onto the reservation.  Stayed an extra ten days and never saw him again.  Ended up tagging a MacDaddy 43# pig and a respectable 160 class buck on that rip.  But it wasn't nearly enough to make up for missing that bruiser.  I can no longer see a prickly pear or even a picture of one without getting sick to my stomach.  My own death is probably the only cure for that nightmare.  And if I somehow find myself in Hell...I expect I will relive that moment for eternity!! :yike:
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: predatorpro on September 07, 2015, 12:04:55 AM
Drink more beer....
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: AKBowman on September 07, 2015, 06:42:10 AM
When there is fog or just a lot of water density in the air angle comp range finders can misjudge the range / angle comp. Especially in the mountains. I missed a very nice full curl dall ram like that 3 years ago. I had all the time in the world and had the ram below me feeding in a small grassy strip at the bottom of a 60 ft wide crevice that was towards the end of a long ridge line. I knew he was close and kept poking my head over the terrain looking for him as I went along. I saw him below me and tried to range find him worked once then couldn't get a range. My range Finder said 60 hold for 58 but he was at what I judged to be a 50 degree angle. I thought about it a while but decided that the mountainous terrain must be playing tricks on me so I put my 60 pin just above the bottom of his chest and shot 3 ft over his back.

It happens. That was day one of the hunt. I ended up killing one on day 9.
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: addicted2hunting on September 07, 2015, 08:05:12 AM
Man! Some really tough stories...glad to see I am not alone but I can now say I feel your pain. Hopefully if I get another chance at one of them I will be posting pics of a monster!
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: MADMAX on September 07, 2015, 08:08:18 AM
yup
just let it go
Its hunting, not a guarantee, I wish I had every deer or elk I ever shot at, some were studs.
tomorrow is a new day
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: SkookumHntr on September 07, 2015, 08:17:41 AM
I'm still haunted by a buck I missed about 15years ago!! And it will never go away! :/
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: nwwanderer on September 07, 2015, 08:21:23 AM
How often do we get a second chance at once in a lifetime, he is still there, do it again with a good bag so you can sleep and be ready.
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: h2ofowlr on September 07, 2015, 08:57:51 AM
You will never forget it.  I missed a monster last year about 20 minutes into opening day.  Thought I could thread the arrow through an opening in sage brush.  Didn't work.  Arrow deflected and Buck hauled off.
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: magnus100 on September 07, 2015, 12:05:37 PM
Misses happen. I can hit an apple from my tree 10 out of 10 times at 30 yards and I shot a big buck a few years ago thru the brisket also.... sometimes with big deer the brain shuts down :).... I did kill the buck the next year and his rack had barely changed from the year before. Very unique cheaters so it was easy to tell it was him. Get him next week or next year :)
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: Mark251 on September 07, 2015, 02:51:45 PM
Just glad it was a clean miss.  Sometimes things like that just happen.  I think that's one of the reasons that the good Lord allowed us to discover the recipe for alcohol....
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: bobdog86 on September 07, 2015, 03:17:35 PM
If it was the buck of a lifetime, unfortunately don't think you ever will. Best consolation is to get right back out and whack one. I still remember a couple I missed, that weren't all that big. But still haunted none the less. Crap just happens, you'll be okay.
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: jackmaster on September 07, 2015, 07:13:21 PM
I will tell you about a miss my cousin had on a raghorn5x5 on white pass, it was snowing and blowing, walks right up on the bull with his trusty ole musket, draws a fine bead at about 15 feet, bull is in the wide open except the tree he is ripping up,  cousin is shaking like a dog sh!!tn peach seeds, touches the ole musket off, the bull lifts his head up, looms at my cousin and trotts out of there, cousin is thinking he drilled it good, except the big musket lead is lodged in the tree the bull was ripping up :chuckle: I make sure I remind him of it often :chuckle: its easier to laugh sometimes.. :tup:
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: huntnphool on September 07, 2015, 07:50:47 PM
 I've been fortunate not to be in those shoes but helped a buddy get on a 190"+ buck a couple years ago. I spotted the buck from about 1 mile and got him to about 400 yards but he didn't feel good about the shot so we waited until the buck fed away and over a hill. We took off after him but when we got to the edge we couldn't find him.

 It took some doing but I managed to find him bedded and watching his does from about 50 yards. We worked into position and sat down at about 220 yards. I gave him my spotter and tripod to use as a rest and he set up. When the buck stood up he took the shot and the buck just stood there. He jacked in another shell and fired again, the buck spun and bolted. We walked up to where the buck was and found no blood or buck, so we followed his tracks until we lost them, the buck was gone and I sat there wondering what had just happened. Truly a buck of a lifetime had just evaded us.

 The next day we went back in looking for the same buck or a flock of crows and magpie. As luck would have it we spotted the buck at first light. Again we worked for a shot but could not get within comfortable range for him to take a shot. The buck eventually gave us the slip and vanished.

 After about a hour of looking, I was able to pick up his tracks pushing a doe. About 11:00 am I spotted the Bucks rack in some bitter brush, bedded down, and no clue we were there. We got down and worked to about 220 again, where we stopped in a great spot to take a shot when the buck got up.

 We got him situated and ready to shoot then had lunch and waited. When the buck stood, I grabbed my camera and got behind my buddy to get some pics, the buck was clueless about us and I wanted my buddy to take his time. I clicked off a couple pics of him aiming at the buck and then he pulled. I moved forward and grabbed my binos to take a look, no buck standing or anywhere in sight, so we packed up and walked down. When we got there, once again there was no buck to be found. :o

 We looked for about a hour, no buck, no blood.......nothing. :bash:

 I had to head home but told him to check back and again look for birds, since I could not believe he could miss the entire deer, two days in a row, from less than 250 yards.

 He called me a few days later, never did find that buck again, dead or alive. He still had 3 days left in the hunt so I told him we could make a redeye run to hunt the last day and at least get him a buck, he agreed.

 We hit the same area and right after first light spotted a nice tall 3 point. We had the entire day but he said that buck would do. Again I ranged the buck at less than 250 yards and he set up. I noticed how badly he was shaking, buck fever for sure. This time one shot and the buck dropped without so much as a twitch. Why couldn't that have happened a few days earlier. :chuckle:

 While he was busy dressing the buck I spotted another buck about 600 yards away and watched him bed down, facing us on a steep hill in the middle of some tall sage. I walked over and grabbed my spotter, zooming in to find that same big *censored* laying there. I told my buddy to come have a look and he had a look of horror on his face as he walked over. The expletives coming out of his mouth would have made most people's ears bleed! :chuckle:

 So I do have that one to wonder about and contribute to this thread. :tup:

 You can see the buck in the middle of the bench. :chuckle:
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: 2MANY on September 08, 2015, 12:03:36 PM
My advice is to dwell on it.

It will help keep you from screwing up in the future and drive you harder to succeed.
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: Jonathan_S on September 08, 2015, 12:13:27 PM
My advice is to dwell on it.

It will help keep you from screwing up in the future and drive you harder to succeed.

Or put a monkey on your back  :chuckle:

I had a 6 point bull at 57 yards in the NE muzzleloading season, 2012.  Percussion cap went off but powder didn't ignite.  I've never used anything but musket caps ever since.  I cannot think about it without feeling down.

I had a 4 point bull at 32 yards in the SE early archery season, 2013.  He winded me and jumped into the brush and never presented a shot.  This one hurts...physically.  I can still see his horse body standing so easily within range.

Last year I killed a small, spike-ish bull in the NE early archery season.  Does it help ease the pain of the blown opportunities.  Not really  :chuckle:
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: huntingbaldguy on September 10, 2015, 02:20:16 AM
I agree with those that said you don't.  I missed probably the biggest rosie i may ever see in my lifetime last year on a rifle shot i could make in my sleep.  Not only will my buddy not let me forget it, i typically beat him to the punch when i know he's going to make a joke about it.  I think it might be to the point where it's not even fun for him to rib me about it anymore.  It wasn't fun for me from day one but you gotta take your licks when something like that happens lol. 

I laugh like i'm over it... i'll never be over it.
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: Jonathan_S on September 10, 2015, 06:42:45 AM
I laugh like i'm over it... i'll never be over it.

Well, at least you got close









 :chuckle:  joking of course.  Getting close to closing the deal only makes it more painful.  This is true in other popular pursuits also.
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: Miles on September 10, 2015, 06:47:09 AM
I missed a 4x4 blacktail with my bow opening morning.  Shot about two inches over his back, then got to watch him feed for another 30 minutes on the other hillside.  It sucks but I just remind myself that there will be more bucks that i connect on in the future, and you can't change the past.
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: cbond3318 on September 10, 2015, 07:29:55 AM
What's funny is the one I missed gets bigger in my head every year!  :dunno:

I pulled the trigger with the safety on at a 50yd broadside Mule Deer Buck 7 years ago, in reality he was probably a 160" class buck but now when my mind wanders back to that very vivid replay, he is a 200" Monster... :chuckle:
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: birddogdad on September 10, 2015, 07:35:03 AM
you will re-live the encounter over and over.. never goes away.. be excited for the chance... had similar event many years back on an elk with my son in tow... he was 12... we still talk about it to this day.. he is 27...   
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: jjhunter on September 10, 2015, 08:28:42 AM
I left a couple of mid 190" bucks on the mountain last week.   

There will be more opportunities, just keep after it.
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: 2MANY on September 10, 2015, 12:32:03 PM
Sounds like most here dwell on it.
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: gaddy on September 10, 2015, 12:44:25 PM
I remember mine like it was this morning, couldn't believe i missed at that range. Went and shot it again on ten power and it was still on. what i found out was that when i moved from ten to four power for the thicker, closer stuff, the rear of the scope wobbled 1/8". That buck would have been the biggest of my life. There are nights (especially wit the season coming) that i cant sleep thinking about it.
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: tgomez on September 10, 2015, 01:28:29 PM
Missed a MONSTER MULIE BUCK last year. Got over it by shooting a 4×4 whitetail 2 hours later. :chuckle:, It won't be the last good buck you will get a shot at. We all miss once in awhile, we just try not to make it a habit. Get him this year!!!
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: 2MANY on September 10, 2015, 02:18:26 PM
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cuz3KXUZj3Y (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cuz3KXUZj3Y)

Just Sayin.
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: gaddy on September 10, 2015, 02:36:47 PM
Love that song ! reminds me of my youth, but still doesn't help with the one that got away.
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: jjhunter on September 10, 2015, 04:13:45 PM
Here is a heavy 180" class buck from this past week bedded at 17 yards.   I got bored waiting for it to stand and snapped a pic with my cell phone.  How does this not end up in my pack?   :chuckle:
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: The scout on September 10, 2015, 05:06:42 PM
honestly you will never get over him. just be glad you didn't wound him and never find him, it's a worse fealing believe it or not
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: 2labs on September 10, 2015, 05:24:19 PM
Crawl in a corner stick your thumb in your mouth and cry like the little kid you are.
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: throttlejocky20 on September 11, 2015, 08:14:09 AM
Missed a giant last year and the only thing i could do besides see the damn buck every time i closed my eyes was to  :cryriver: then some more  :cryriver: then after i was dont beating myself up i :cryriver: some more. even writing this i shed a little tear  :'(
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: hunter_sean08 on September 11, 2015, 10:37:12 AM
Back in my rookie years, I crossed over this knob that I loved (this was the 1st year I hunted this particular knob) and saw my Dad go into panic mode as he scrambled to get into a shooting position. I looked down the hillside to see the biggest muley 4x4 I've seen to this day get out of his bed and start moving towards the buckbrush. I wanted to make sure it was my bullet that put him down, so I got into position and fired a quick shot that sailed over his back. He then did three or four big muley bounds into the brush and disappeared forever. I literally was sick to my stomach, and Dad wasn't happy. I was so desperate, that I went running down the draw in a full blown sprint, hoping I'd catch up with him for one more shot. Of course, he was gone.

Now I'm all about being patient, calm, cool, collected. Haven't missed a buck with my rifle since that fateful day, 10 years ago, but I'm still constantly reminded of that experience. Every season, I visit the same spot, just hoping a relative of that buck is bedded down in the same place. I guess the silver lining is that I've taken 3 other nice bucks from that knob, but none that rival how large that one was. As bummed as I was, it was a great learning experience for me.
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: elk247 on September 16, 2015, 09:37:27 PM
Dang, I could never shoot a buck that my dad had sights on. I have way more bucks and bulls to my name and he dreams of the "one"  nothing would make my season more than watching him fill his tag on a 160+. Unless it was a 300+ bull. I wish he had been with me last weekend to shoot at the the 290 and 270 bulls I passed up but he was 4 draws over.
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: Elkpiss on September 17, 2015, 08:52:29 AM
You don't, trust me.

You will never get over it...  I missed a 350 bull at 28 yrds right over his back, I thought he was 40...  That was 10 years ago and I still think about that and get teary eyed all the time..  You will never get over it, you have to learn to deal with it with lots of alcohol and should of woulda could of it to death..   I think why oh why lord why didn't I put my 30 pin on him....   :bash:
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: runamuk on September 17, 2015, 10:23:39 AM
I don't dwell on it but... :bash: and I didn't miss I flippin choked  :bash: :bash: on what would have been my first anything.  Sigh season 6 approaches and I do not forsee hunting at all this year. 
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: idahohuntr on September 18, 2015, 08:58:36 AM
I shot and lost a buck.  First and only deer I've lost in my life.  I was so sick about the whole thing and still am.  I went out the very next day and killed my best archery buck ever.  Losing one still stings, but getting back out and focusing on hunting was much better than stewing and losing confidence. 

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Really hope I misunderstood what you just said? So you shot and wounded a buck and instead of notching the tag and spending the next day or days looking for it you went out and shot another buck?

I'm sorry I kind of derailed this very serious thread. Just kind of bothered me when this most likely paid wolf advocate jumped in. He does this on many threads, shows up with a cameo appearance acting like he has something to offer. This time the story he tells rubbed me more than usual. As usual he randomly sneaks in a few comments across the forum trying to defect attention from the wolf issue where 90% of his posts have been made, and 100% of those have been pro wolf. The comment he made that I quoted in the previous post really bothered me. Maybe he really is ok with the wolves if he will shoot a deer and not find it that afternoon and instead of looking for it the next day go shoot another?
I hope you have a successful season of hunting cboom.  I've done alright this year, got a nice 4x5 white-tail in archery season and then I invited an Army officer who recently returned from Afghanistan to hunt in one of my stands and he got a buck too.  I was happier about his buck than the one I got - Now I've got a couple of youth hunters that I hope to get out soon for their first archery deer.  Anyways - thats partly why I haven't been able to post a whole bunch.  Again, I wish you the very best in your hunting seasons this year.  :brew:

Take care,
Idahohuntr 
Title: Re: how to cope after missing a buck of a lifetime?
Post by: M_ray on September 18, 2015, 10:07:13 AM
I shot and lost a buck.  First and only deer I've lost in my life.  I was so sick about the whole thing and still am.  I went out the very next day and killed my best archery buck ever.  Losing one still stings, but getting back out and focusing on hunting was much better than stewing and losing confidence. 

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Really hope I misunderstood what you just said? So you shot and wounded a buck and instead of notching the tag and spending the next day or days looking for it you went out and shot another buck?

I'm sorry I kind of derailed this very serious thread. Just kind of bothered me when this most likely paid wolf advocate jumped in. He does this on many threads, shows up with a cameo appearance acting like he has something to offer. This time the story he tells rubbed me more than usual. As usual he randomly sneaks in a few comments across the forum trying to defect attention from the wolf issue where 90% of his posts have been made, and 100% of those have been pro wolf. The comment he made that I quoted in the previous post really bothered me. Maybe he really is ok with the wolves if he will shoot a deer and not find it that afternoon and instead of looking for it the next day go shoot another?

Not saying that your comments might not be accurate but first off its a bit of a :jacked: and second I would need more of the story before I passed judgement??? A story of which it looks like you're surely not going to get now  :dunno: A lot of assumptions are made in your post.
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