Post by: Mossy on October 20, 2010, 07:51:28 PM
Post by: BLKBEARKLR on October 20, 2010, 07:56:05 PM
So I've bow hunted by myself for the past 4 years or so but a buddy from work wanted to hunt with me this year so i bought a modern tag for elk. We've scouted a little, sighted in our rifles and bought maps for a few spots. I called him a couple days ago to recheck our guns and maps but he says, "Oh, a buddy of mine was talking to his grandfather and he's going to let us hunt his property". So of course I was excited but then he says only him and his buddy can go. WTH? No sorry, no let me talk him into letting you go too, no "I already have plans". Pretty pissed. I know I wouldn't back out on hunting plans. That's one of the reasons I started hunting by myself, too many disappointments from others. What would you guys do? think?
I hunt with two people - the wife and my one and only hunting partner. We never change plans. That is why I stopped hunting with other people. You get things wired in and next thing you know it has changed.
I did this year have a blast with Ranger from this site though. We both went antelope hunting on the spur of the moment.
Joe
Post by: ribka on October 20, 2010, 07:56:41 PM
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Post by: STIKNSTRINGBOW on October 20, 2010, 08:11:34 PM
I always plan on hunting by myself and if i have company that is ok. But always plan on my own. Too many flaky people.That is how I hunt now too, it is hard to find a reliable partner.
Post by: bobcat on October 20, 2010, 08:15:05 PM
Post by: FWilliams on October 20, 2010, 08:16:36 PM
Post by: Mossy on October 20, 2010, 08:18:39 PM
:bash: Sorry to hear about that.. What kind of a FRIEND is he really ?
Just a buddy from work. We shoot quite a bit together, been on a half ass bear hunt and gone fishing a couple times. I'm a pretty good judge of character and figured he'd be reliable. I just wish it wasn't so close to season. Should have made him buy a bow then I wouldn't have to worry.
Post by: Mossy on October 20, 2010, 08:54:57 PM
Post by: Hornseeker on October 21, 2010, 05:34:49 AM
At which point I would tell him, "hell no, go for it"..
But, if it went down like you just explained...I wouldn't talk to him much anymore.
Post by: billythekidrock on October 21, 2010, 05:45:54 AM
LAME! If it was my good friend/hunting partner (or anyone for that matter) I would expect them to come to me when they heard about the private and say, "Hey, I have this great opportunity that just came up to hunt some private where there are tons of big bulls.... is it going to screw you up if I hunt there and you aren't allowed to?":yeah:
At which point I would tell him, "hell no, go for it"..
But, if it went down like you just explained...I wouldn't talk to him much anymore.
Post by: butcher98951 on October 21, 2010, 06:37:40 AM
Post by: sprungnoggin on October 21, 2010, 06:45:12 AM
LAME! If it was my good friend/hunting partner (or anyone for that matter) I would expect them to come to me when they heard about the private and say, "Hey, I have this great opportunity that just came up to hunt some private where there are tons of big bulls.... is it going to screw you up if I hunt there and you aren't allowed to?"
At which point I would tell him, "hell no, go for it"..
But, if it went down like you just explained...I wouldn't talk to him much anymore.
This!
Post by: Skinnyman on October 21, 2010, 08:07:51 AM
I always plan on hunting by myself and if i have company that is ok. But always plan on my own. Too many flaky people.
I always plan on hunting alone. I invite some people to join me, but I know that they will flake out on me. Not sure why, but thats the way it always ends up. I always go deer hunting with the same people, but elk is a different story - no one goes. :dunno:
So I just hunt alone, much easier to plan too!!! No one else to accomodate.
I do understand why the landowner only wants people he knows to hunt it, and only wants a limited # of people there. There are a lot of unethical and unsafe hunters out there. Not saying any of you are that way, but the owner has no way of knowing that.
Post by: wildmanoutdoors on October 21, 2010, 08:10:41 AM
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Post by: BlackRidge on October 21, 2010, 08:14:28 AM
LAME! If it was my good friend/hunting partner (or anyone for that matter) I would expect them to come to me when they heard about the private and say, "Hey, I have this great opportunity that just came up to hunt some private where there are tons of big bulls.... is it going to screw you up if I hunt there and you aren't allowed to?"Well put, couldn't agree more
At which point I would tell him, "hell no, go for it"..
But, if it went down like you just explained...I wouldn't talk to him much anymore.
Post by: markts on October 21, 2010, 08:15:19 AM
My thoughts exactly-I was set to hunt with one of my buddies a couple of years ago and got a call afew days before the opener from another bud who just got some private land to hunt. Went and talked with buddy #one and he said go for it-I got a bull and all was good :twocents:LAME! If it was my good friend/hunting partner (or anyone for that matter) I would expect them to come to me when they heard about the private and say, "Hey, I have this great opportunity that just came up to hunt some private where there are tons of big bulls.... is it going to screw you up if I hunt there and you aren't allowed to?":yeah:
At which point I would tell him, "hell no, go for it"..
But, if it went down like you just explained...I wouldn't talk to him much anymore.
Post by: Widgeondeke on October 21, 2010, 08:20:24 AM
Post by: turkeydancer on October 21, 2010, 08:24:15 AM
I just would let it slide as far as everyday at work, but to any of his future inquiries my response to him would be "Sorry got other plans" (or " got my own opportunity this year") ! ;)
It's sort of like the buddy that always wants to hunt with you, but only when he finds out you got drawn for that very special "sure thing" permit hunt ... nope, sorry, too late, too bad, so sad. >:(
Post by: rasbo on October 21, 2010, 08:52:15 AM
Post by: Bean Counter on October 21, 2010, 08:52:34 AM
I just would let it slide as far as everyday at work, but to any of his future inquiries my response to him would be "Sorry got other plans" (or " got my own opportunity this year") ! ;)
:yeah: Take the high road and don't turn it into bitchy gossip. In some professional settings this goes without saying but I don't know what type of environment you work in (and don't need to know). I'm can endorse "I got other plans" but don't lie or make excuses. In fact, if he presses and wants to know why he no longer has a shooting buddy, tell him gently but firmly how much you were disappointed. Everything you wrote in your OP makes sense to any decent person.
Post by: Little Fish on October 21, 2010, 09:15:27 AM
Post by: Wile E. Hunter on October 21, 2010, 10:00:00 AM
Since then he still mentions hunting together but I'll have no part of it. Hunting partners form an important part of our lives because for one thing we may come to rely on them for our lives, but mostly because they share in something that's very deeply important to us. He broke the bond, and I'll not hunt with him again. I no longer respect him. I have to respect someone to consider them a friend, even more so a hunting partner. I'm much tighter with my hunting partners than other friends.
Wile E.
Post by: Tony 270 on October 21, 2010, 10:30:06 AM
Post by: k_rex on October 21, 2010, 12:00:35 PM
I have very few issues with this since I hunt with family or by myself.
Post by: bankwalker on October 21, 2010, 12:37:47 PM
i tried to get something setup with a forum member but never could get a solid plan set with my money situation at the time keeping me from going.
i hunt alone aswell. it is just far easier that way
Post by: Mossy on October 21, 2010, 01:01:24 PM
Post by: Bean Counter on October 21, 2010, 04:23:46 PM
That still doesn't mean you need to hunt with him again. He needs to rebuild credibility by being a consistent man of his word.
Post by: Bean Counter on October 21, 2010, 04:25:32 PM
Post by: sivart33 on October 21, 2010, 04:37:04 PM
Forgive your friend, friends are more important then hunting. Is hunting going to bail you out of jail, or give you a place to stay if needed, drive you home from a bar if you got way to drunk.
Post by: billythekidrock on October 21, 2010, 07:57:54 PM
i don't like to hunt with people, i have in the past never had a down side, but more conformable with no one else. only you can mess something up not anyone else to blame.
Yep, been knocked off my game a few times by hunting with people. Even when hunting with experienced and successful hunters it can be easy to lose focus.
Post by: tshoote30 on October 21, 2010, 09:18:51 PM
i don't like to hunt with people, i have in the past never had a down side, but more conformable with no one else. only you can mess something up not anyone else to blame.
Yep, been knocked off my game a few times by hunting with people. Even when hunting with experienced and successful hunters it can be easy to lose focus.
Yea hard to swallow but friends are friends if he is a friend that you cherish and know that he would do for you as you would do for him.. hunting is hunting and family and friends that are worth it, are not replaceable. i hope you are able to find a great hunt this year considering the situation. if you were close to me I would invite you to join us. Good luck....
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