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Offline Smossy

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I think Im done.
« on: January 02, 2019, 03:10:55 PM »
I think its time to lay everything down and move on, I have no hunting friends, I have no family, No one to share it or the lifestyle with. Ill tell you this, regardless of your opinion.. Doing something your supposed to love, alone, never ever to share experiences or stories. Its not fun for me anymore, Its torment. I havent shot a bow in well over a year, I havent trapped in two, and I barely fish anymore. Seems maybe just nothing is enjoyable for ME without having someone to share with.
To anyone who went out of theyre way to help me, thank you.
Most of all, H20 and Pianoman. You two have helped me, reached out to me before, and pulled me into YOUR life before even judging me.

Im moving on to do things that I cant sleep or breath without thinking about.
May not put hunting down forever but I just cant do it right now. Its like it was ripped from my bloodstream. Literally the thought of being able to put down my first bear with a bow or spear (which some know was my ultimate goal overall) taking the ultimate predator in an almost primitive way, Doesnt even trigger a single spark in me anymore. Whatever.
Not leaving this open for replies. I just know some of you message my wife all the time and not me for some reason to find out how I am.
« Last Edit: January 02, 2019, 03:38:20 PM by Smossy »
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Re: I think Im done.
« Reply #1 on: January 02, 2019, 03:57:38 PM »
You may need to speak to a professional kid
Seriously
Don’t wait
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Re: I think Im done.
« Reply #2 on: January 02, 2019, 04:03:05 PM »
I’m no life expert but one thing I do know is the first thing you need to do is get the hell off this forum; I know from experience that getting caught up in this “virtual fantasy” chat room facebook crap can run you into the ground if you let it...Good Luck!  :tup:

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Re: I think Im done.
« Reply #3 on: January 02, 2019, 04:05:48 PM »
The fact that they message Becky to find out how you are means they care about you. I care about you, brother. You're welcome in my hunting camp any time. I'm quite sure my partner would agree. But MadMax is right. If you're this low, get some help. You deserve it and you're worth it. Your wife deserves it and she's worth it - I think you'd agree. And, it can be better. I hope you'll make the choice to make it so. As I've said before, you have my number.
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Re: I think Im done.
« Reply #4 on: January 02, 2019, 04:20:53 PM »
You may need to speak to a professional kid
Seriously
Don’t wait
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Re: I think Im done.
« Reply #5 on: January 02, 2019, 04:22:44 PM »
Smossy, sometimes you just have to do what you need at the moment to get things right.
If that means putting Hunting aside for awhile, so be it.
Find something or someone to help keep you busy to invest your time and effort, good friends, Wife.
Sometimes helping others is great medicine, when we need it most.
You will always have a place here anytime you wish!

Wish you the best either way, praying for you and your family.
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Re: I think Im done.
« Reply #6 on: January 02, 2019, 06:01:37 PM »
I've ran into the same situation several times in my life, and I'm going through it right now actually. I've moved around the USA several times and you lose hunting/fishing friends frequently due to that. And the older you get, the harder it is to make new friends to go out with. People get married, have kids, have careers, you're not in school meeting new people and more, etc ... It's tough. I just moved out here to Olympia from the Midwest. I have no friends and no family out here. I have to learn to hunt and fish all new country. Yep, the learning curve is going to suck.

« Last Edit: January 02, 2019, 06:08:35 PM by Parasite »

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Re: I think Im done.
« Reply #7 on: January 02, 2019, 06:13:50 PM »
Smossy,You have been there for some of us on this forum as well.You are a great asset to this forum.When i needed help with fishing you were there to tell me where and when to hit the river,I did what you said and landed the first of several Salmon because of you.  :tup: Don't give up on us and most of all don't give up on yourself.

Best to you and your family.P.S hows the boat project going?
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Re: I think Im done.
« Reply #8 on: January 02, 2019, 06:34:37 PM »
I know where your coming from Bro, my kids are grown out of the house and live in Fl, and Ca, except the oldest but she and her husband both hunt, butt won’t take vacation.

So I do have two friends that make deer camp every year, but the wife really hates when I leave for camp those 11 days. I’ve almost not gone before, but I can’t just not do it, it’s in my blood from childhood. 😉

Hang in there don’t leave us, the forum is a good thing for some us in moderation.🤔
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Re: I think Im done.
« Reply #9 on: January 02, 2019, 07:42:26 PM »
The real question is it that are you feeling depressed or just not feeling hunting anymore?! It’s ok to not feel hunting but if it’s depression get help pronto! It sounds like you’ve gone through this before. Like said above get off this site and probably social media altogether it would definitely help IMO! Praying for ya man
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Re: I think Im done.
« Reply #10 on: January 02, 2019, 07:42:42 PM »
I dont know you but I know where you are at. Most of my family and friends live on another continent. Its really tough. Especially this time of year when its dark and cold and everything seems to weigh you down. But from the looks of it you have a lot going for you. Dont lose hope and consider looking at professional help if you are seriously down. Slow down and take the time to do you. 

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Re: I think Im done.
« Reply #11 on: January 02, 2019, 08:14:43 PM »
Sucks to hear, but I have a buddy doing the same thing.  He separated from his wife this past year.  Had a really hard time with that and everything he learned after the fact.  He thought it would be good to see a therapist.  Sometime you should shop around for the right type of therapist.  After a few sessions and meeting with this individual, he said the therapist thought it would be a good idea for a life change for him.  Next think I know, he is selling everything.  Everyone around him is thinking he is going of the deep end.

In the end, maybe changes or big changes are what eventually bring you back to the hunting and fishing when you realize how much enjoyment they can bring.  Or may new hobbies and activities heal the soul.  Hard to say as everyone is different.  If you loose your fire for something, you need to try to discover it in other ways.  Hopefully you will find your path and it will be in a positive direction.  :tup:  Sucks to consider throwing in the towel, but health and sanity have to managed in a positive way.  Best regards in finding your step again.
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Re: I think Im done.
« Reply #12 on: January 02, 2019, 10:58:32 PM »
Being a casual hunter or non hunter is OK too. You get to define who you are, where your passions lie and what you spend your time on. If hunting and fishing don't light your fire find something that does. Best wishes. 
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Re: I think Im done.
« Reply #13 on: January 02, 2019, 11:43:11 PM »
By all means, take a break from hunting and this forum if you need to. It can be a demanding activity. But when you lose passion for the things that make you the man you are, do like Madmax and Piano suggest, and seek out some help.  It is not a sign of weakness, but of wisdom. We care about you. You and your wife are valued members on this forum. Praying for you.

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Re: I think Im done.
« Reply #14 on: January 03, 2019, 01:23:26 PM »
Been there dude

It almost cost me everything, dealing with stuff is one thing, forgetting who you are is another.

Its taken me 4 years of recovery to get back to doing things I remembered enjoying

Pm if ya gotta get something off the mind
« Last Edit: January 03, 2019, 01:30:46 PM by Night goat »

 


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