Advice from old and seasoned hunters NEEDED: is it a trap??

[predatorG]

I need some serious advice from a well seasoned man of the woods. I am dating a girl right now and she’s awesome. She seems to be catering to my hunting itch and saying things like “I totally understand that elk season is in a week and that you have that on your brain”. She lives in Eugene and I was down visiting her and her parents this week and she even took me to The Bow Rack in Springfield to see the spot that Cam Hanes gets his bow and to let me talk to Wayne. She let’s me practice my elk calls in the car, is fine with listening to all my hunting podcasts, and even cuddles up and watches last season of Born and Raised outdoors with me  what is happening? Is this actually real life or are things gonna be changing for me real soon?? What should I expect in the future? Is this a sign that she’s catering to me now and is actually going to go full crazy in the future? Or is she being serious and might turn into an archery hunter in the future?? I’m worried that this might be some sort of trap, the female gender has a long and storied history of pulling these type of maneuvers until it’s too late to run for the hills. I need some advice from you old timers, is there a way to keep this sweet dynamic going or should I run for the hills??

[h20hunter]

I say play right into her hands. Encourage this behavior.  Go further to Encourage her...buy flowers,  cook for her....even frilly and or sparkly.  If she takes the bait and even encourages you more then it's time to lock her down and put a ring on it.

[Boss .300 winmag]

I say play right into her hands. Encourage this behavior.  Go further to Encourage her...buy flowers,  cook for her....even frilly and or sparkly.  If she takes the bait and even encourages you more then it's time to lock her down and put a ring on it.

Whoa, whoa stop right there. 

Bad advice.

Get her bowhunting first, and if she likes that after a couple seasons ( made sure you add some Kate season cold weather in there) then you can start thinking about rings.😉

[lokidog]

 

The only problem is that when they like to do all of this stuff, you  have to buy two sets of everything.    Play along, enjoy the ride. I dragged my, now wife, through the berry bushes of western Washington modern rifle deer hunting and she enjoyed it.

Good luck.

[kselkhunter]

Count yourself as a lucky man, and hang onto this one. 

[Special T]

I say play right into her hands. Encourage this behavior.  Go further to Encourage her...buy flowers,  cook for her....even frilly and or sparkly.  If she takes the bait and even encourages you more then it's time to lock her down and put a ring on it.

Whoa, whoa stop right there. 

Bad advice.

Get her bowhunting first, and if she likes that after a couple seasons ( made sure you add some Kate season cold weather in there) then you can start thinking about rings.😉

Boss is on the right track. You have to test her more and see if she can hang. She will put on her best behavior to lure you in. If she likes to shoot a bow and do 3ds with you, camp and stuff like that then even if she doesnt like to hunt you will like to do enough together.

[Bob33]

My opinion is that the most important issue is how she feels about you being a hunter. If she doesn't hunt but freely allows and encourages you to do so that's the first step.

No one knows how she will feel in five or ten years. I suspect I would trust her.

[pianoman9701]

I need some serious advice from a well seasoned man of the woods. I am dating a girl right now and she’s awesome. She seems to be catering to my hunting itch and saying things like “I totally understand that elk season is in a week and that you have that on your brain”. She lives in Eugene and I was down visiting her and her parents this week and she even took me to The Bow Rack in Springfield to see the spot that Cam Hanes gets his bow and to let me talk to Wayne. She let’s me practice my elk calls in the car, is fine with listening to all my hunting podcasts, and even cuddles up and watches last season of Born and Raised outdoors with me  what is happening? Is this actually real life or are things gonna be changing for me real soon?? What should I expect in the future? Is this a sign that she’s catering to me now and is actually going to go full crazy in the future? Or is she being serious and might turn into an archery hunter in the future?? I’m worried that this might be some sort of trap, the female gender has a long and storied history of pulling these type of maneuvers until it’s too late to run for the hills. I need some advice from you old timers, is there a way to keep this sweet dynamic going or should I run for the hills??

Within the first week of dating my current wife. I made it clear that I hunt elk for two weeks every year (condition of employment, as well), and that I'll hunt geese every weekend I can. If I don't tag out in September, I'll be hunting late season. If someone gives me an opportunity to hunt something else, I will. If your girlfriend is down with that, marry her. Don't get married in the Fall and no unprotected sex from Dec 1st through February 1st. Simple rules. And if she agrees, buy her a car.

[h20hunter]

I just teared up.

[cem3434]

Follow Boss's advice.If you're lucky like me, she will take to hunting. My wife never shot a gun or bow before she met me and didnt grow up around anyone that hunted. She has turned out to be very passionate about the outdoors and probably hunts at least twice as much as I do now because of my work schedule. She started with a rifle, but then moved onto muzzy and now archery.  She has taken several pheasants, ducks, geese, turkeys (lost count) 9 deer and 5 elk since she started hunting around 2006. To say she loves hunting and fishing now is an understatement. Good luck and sharing time in the outdoors with your significant other can leave you with a sore back and legs, but be very rewarding. 

[kselkhunter]

I need some serious advice from a well seasoned man of the woods. I am dating a girl right now and she’s awesome. She seems to be catering to my hunting itch and saying things like “I totally understand that elk season is in a week and that you have that on your brain”. She lives in Eugene and I was down visiting her and her parents this week and she even took me to The Bow Rack in Springfield to see the spot that Cam Hanes gets his bow and to let me talk to Wayne. She let’s me practice my elk calls in the car, is fine with listening to all my hunting podcasts, and even cuddles up and watches last season of Born and Raised outdoors with me  what is happening? Is this actually real life or are things gonna be changing for me real soon?? What should I expect in the future? Is this a sign that she’s catering to me now and is actually going to go full crazy in the future? Or is she being serious and might turn into an archery hunter in the future?? I’m worried that this might be some sort of trap, the female gender has a long and storied history of pulling these type of maneuvers until it’s too late to run for the hills. I need some advice from you old timers, is there a way to keep this sweet dynamic going or should I run for the hills??

Within the first week of dating my current wife. I made it clear that I hunt elk for two weeks every year (condition of employment, as well), and that I'll hunt geese every weekend I can. If I don't tag out in September, I'll be hunting late season. If someone gives me an opportunity to hunt something else, I will. If your girlfriend is down with that, marry her. Don't get married in the Fall and no unprotected sex from Dec 1st through February 1st. Simple rules. And if she agrees, buy her a car.

   Hunting pre-nuptual agreement!  Including months that unprotected sex is allowed to prevent births/pregnancy during hunting season.  I love it.   

[ghosthunter]

37 years this Tuesday. Does not hunt. But I have been gone the entire month of October for that long. She will sit and criticize hunting shows. Pointing out things she doesn't think are fair to the animal.
But a lot of gear I pull out in hunting camp was a gift from her. Including rifles.

I think time away from each other is good for a marriage.

I cant hang dead stuff in the house. But she did mount some anthers for me on a old pack frame and let be hang it in the bedroom. Thought that was funny ,but I came home and she is using it for a hat and scarf rack.

Balance is key

[buckfvr]

Women have a way of changing significantly as they age, notably from +- 20 to +- 30.  Children influence much of this.  Id not encourage anything, opting to let her decide all by herself if she has a serious, lasting interest in hunting/fishing.  Youre going, she can go with and camp, or she can stay home and do whatever.  If she decides to try hunting, baby steps, a little at a time and dont tailor it to fit her strength or weakness.  I say this because she needs to see how it really is going to be, not a watered down version to accommodate her during her first impression.

No, Im not being a dick.  My wife has hunted some, taken a couple w/t bucks, and we did a lot of steelhead/salmon fishing back when it really was good.  She has duck hunted and upland hunted also.  She has plans to take a buck this year just for the meat seeing hows things are/may be.  Everything has been her decision because over the years Ive seen too many friends and relatives who prodded their wives and girlfriends into their every activity and I can say many of them ended up in the terlet.  My own wife of 42 years admits she likes her own time when I hunt, not at all feeling she needs to always be along. However, when/if she does say I want to go along, there is never any hesitation on my behalf, she goes with.

Play it by ear, dont dive in and steer her, let her figure out for herself.   

[buckfvr]

37 years this Tuesday. Does not hunt. But I have been gone the entire month of October for that long. She will sit and criticize hunting shows. Pointing out things she doesn't think are fair to the animal.
But a lot of gear I pull out in hunting camp was a gift from her. Including rifles.

I think time away from each other is good for a marriage.

 

[xX Let ER Rip Xx]

Buckfvr gave you some really solid advice......!!!

I’m lucky enough to have a fiancé that absolutely loves doing those things with me! When I first took her it was baby steps, now when she wants to go along, I’m more then happy to accommodate and believe me I do not hesitate!! Life gets crazy sometimes also, especially when raising a family, so along with relationships need a little time apart, some good quality time with your girl away from daily life’s stress can do the relationship a lot of good as well. Follow the advice given by these guys and use it to make your own decision, but believe me its all good advice!!

Good luck buddy.....