Advice from old and seasoned hunters NEEDED: is it a trap??

[BNAElkhntr]

32 years this Thursday wife understands the Month of October and half November  Are mine she can have the Rest

[kselkhunter]

37 years this Tuesday. Does not hunt. But I have been gone the entire month of October for that long. She will sit and criticize hunting shows. Pointing out things she doesn't think are fair to the animal.
But a lot of gear I pull out in hunting camp was a gift from her. Including rifles.

I think time away from each other is good for a marriage.

 

Yeah my wife would never go hunting with me nor shoot a gun (she personally doesn't like guns after her childhood best friend was shot in a robbery attempt, but she doesn't have a problem with me having many).  She has her hobbies and I have mine.  I can hunt as often as I like every year, without complaints or resentment from her.  As long as I don't leave my gear out on the floor around the house or something stupid, she leaves me alone.  She even bought me a Hobie pedal powered fishing kayak for my birthday recently...which was very cool.   But having at least some separate hobbies is helpful for a marriage, especially when there are no kids in the house anymore (or ever, in our case)....helps keep you from driving each other bonkers. 

[Jingles]

32 years this Thursday wife understands the Month of October and half November  Are mine she can have the Rest

Congrats on the 32 years  and I know exactly what you are saying about Oct and Nov being your and the wife understanding, my wife has put up with it for 50 years the 19th. She even asked if I was actually going to be home this year instead of in the woods?

[Sandberm]

Trap!

Of course most women are adept at setting this trap and it is accepted by society. They act all interested in your sporting activities and you feel like the luckiest guy in the world cuz your chick goes and watches you race your dirtbike and seems to be amused by Jimmy Huston...and then shortly before the wedding things seem to change but you chalk it up to her planning her special day.

After the wedding, she'll never watch another episode of Babe Winklemen with you or go to any dusty mx races. No more cleaning fish in the laundry room sink. Dont even think of hanging dead animal heads anywhere in HER house. Its all about decorating the house, having the right car to drive and planning for kids to impress her snobby friends.

My first ex wife even had towels in the bathroom that were not for using, just decoration! Say what?

And don't even ask what doesn't happen in the bedroom anymore...or how less frequently it happens

So in other words, your chick seems pretty normal, just be sure to check where she fits in the crazy/hot matrix.

[fishngamereaper]

First piece of advise relevant to this is don't ask for advice on a hunting forum. 

Second piece of advise is what do you think she would say if she saw this post.

If it works out it works out...But if your paranoid about her motives already I can tell you it's not going a good direction.

[Twispriver]

My advise is to never practice elk calls in the car. The acoustics are terrible and you'll never really be sure if you're achieving the sound you are after.

[Cougartail]

It"s a trap.

[dvolmer]

I will give you the advice my father gave me!  "You dont know what true hapiness is until you get married, and then its to late"!!!!!  Or, "You know what puppy love leads to?  A dogs life"!!!!

[Alchase]

Some serious truth being spoken here!

The un-usable towels, is an indication of severe nesting disease. It starts when the kids start leaving the nest.
In the begging it is towels, then increases to Bathrooms, Bedrooms, even Dining rooms!
We have three bedrooms I am not allowed to  evenwalk in because it will leave foot prints on the freshly vacuumed carpet. We have two bathrooms I am not allowed to use (unless I want to clean them regularly) I am only allowed to use the bathroom off the garage and the Master Bath.
I did put my foot down when we bought our house here in Oklahoma. The plan had a dining room that was enclosed on three sides. I told her we will never use a formal dinning room here. All our family lives in Washington, and very few will make the trip out here, so we need to knock those walls down to make the family room bigger. I got my huge living room, she can have the three unused bedrooms (except her clothes in the closets) and the other two bathrooms, for her to leave "pristine".
She also loves when I am gone hunting. I guess men can contaminate a clean house just by walking in the door
 
She gets visibly upset if I do not bring home game. I even thought about killing a smaller wild hog just incase to appease her if do not get a deer, but damn they stink!

I did take her scouting once up in the Methow. I showed her how to avoid the thunderbrush so you do not spook the deer. We hiked in a couple miles, then up a ridgeline. I pulled out my new bear call. I gave it a few blasts and got a response just below up in the trees. She asked "what was that!"
I did not want to tell her that chomping and snapping she was hearing was a bear in the trees below us, so I said "I do not know".
Next thing I hear is STOMP STOMP STOMP as she was heading the opposite direction hitting every patch of thunderbrush on her way! It took me a ways to convince her it was safe.

She never wanted to go Scouting/Hunting after that   

[Odell]

Someone told me the thing about marriage is you are making a commitment to love and cherish not only the person she is, but the three other people she becomes in the next 50 years.

I'd get solid on the deeper things, what does she value, what drives her, etc. Deeper things about faith, character, what kind of mom and wife will she be?  If your core values and hers line up you figure the rest out as you go. You might change too. I've seen hardcore hunters set it all down and walk away for something new.

[Alchase]

Someone told me the thing about marriage is you are making a commitment to love and cherish not only the person she is, but the three other people she becomes in the next 50 years.

You start this thread out with wisdom unbecoming from Hunting Washington! 

I'd get solid on the deeper things, what does she value, what drives her, etc. Deeper things about faith, character, what kind of mom and wife will she be?  If your core values and hers line up you figure the rest out as you go. You might change too. I've seen hardcore hunters set it all down and walk away for something new.

Then you loose perspective and go all mythical on us!

Just kidding, some good advice here. 

[Sandberm]

Brother Alchase is preaching the Gospel..

I left a skidmark in the wrong bathroom toilet and got a gentle reminder what a caveman I am.  No chance of scouting any game with my current future ex wife...talk talk talk, "thats nice honey"...*sigh*

Oh well, she does take really good care of our dog...but, pretty sure thats because she loves him more then me.

Good luck!

[Jonathan_S]

Simple rule but difficult in the moment

[Boss .300 winmag]

I will give you the advice my father gave me!  "You dont know what true hapiness is until you get married, and then its to late"!!!!!  Or, "You know what puppy love leads to?  A dogs life"!!!!

Ah puppy ❤️, I still think about my first girl friend a lot, she was everything till I saw here with an older guy in town a hour after I took her home.

[Alchase]

Brother Alchase is preaching the Gospel..

I left a skidmark in the wrong bathroom toilet and got a gentle reminder what a caveman I am.  No chance of scouting any game with my current future ex wife...talk talk talk, "thats nice honey"...*sigh*

Oh well, she does take really good care of our dog...but, pretty sure thats because she loves him more then me.

Good luck!

Here is a hint "Metamucil"!
A little fiber Kills skid marks in the toilet and the laundry,